What Does it Mean to be Unfuckwithable?

The idea of being unfuckwithable is catching on, and it’s no wonder. In a world full of challenges, distractions, and other people’s opinions, the ability to remain solid in who you are is a superpower. But what does it really mean to be unfuckwithable?

When I asked my network, three main themes emerged. Let’s dive in—and if you want to deepen your unfuckwithable energy, I’ll point you to some powerful tools to get started.

Being Unfuckwithable Is… Being Unapologetically You

This is about knowing who you are and owning it, unapologetically and unashamedly.

  • No toning yourself down because you fear being “too much.”
  • No pretending to be someone else for the sake of being liked more.
  • No hiding parts of yourself because you’re afraid they won’t be accepted.
  • No staying quiet about your beliefs just to avoid offending someone.

When you’re truly yourself, you’re not seeking external validation. The only approval you need is your own.

This means that you’re not a people pleaser.

When you’re being YOU, you don’t care whether some people might not like you. You’re not bothered about offending someone’s sensitivities. You’re definitely not changing who you are to get other people’s approval.

The only person you set out to please is yourself (and your conscience).

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Smiling and Being “Nice”? Not Anymore!

Most people smile to be liked, but this is just people-pleasing with your face. Being unfuckwithable means you smile when it’s genuine, not out of obligation. Kindness becomes authentic, not toxic.

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Being unfuckwithable is about being true to you, no matter what.

Being Unfuckwithable Is: Carving Your Own Path

This means pursuing what lights you up, even if it’s unconventional or challenging.

  • You zig where others zag because it feels right for you.
  • You stay true to your vision, even when the path is tough or unpopular.
  • You don’t give up because it’s hard or scary—you persist because it matters.

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It’s about being persistent and determined despite the bumps and scrapes. Sure you might hit tricky times or hardship, but it doesn’t crush you. You are unfuckwithable, after all.

Being unfuckwithable is about choosing a path and not being swayed off it, no matter what.

Being Unfuckwithable Is Not Losing It

One phrase that came up quite a bit when I asked people what being unfuckwithable means was this: “Don’t fuck with me!”

But what does this phrase mean?

Does it mean …

“Don’t fuck with me, as you’ll be wasting your time.”

Or does it mean…

“Don’t fuck with me because if you do
I’ll unleash all manner of shit on your sorry ass”

I think this last one has a whiff of ruling by fear about it. And while I think it has some validity, I’m not sure it sits in the being unfuckwithable camp.

When I think of people ‘not fucking with me’, it’s not that they don’t try, it’s that they don’t manage to. Period. They can try all they want, but it doesn’t have any effect on with me. There’s a BIG difference there.

It’s about whether they knock you off your perch.

They can shake the branch as much as they like, but you don’t fall off. You might not even notice the branch is shaking.

Your inner balance is on point.

This is very different to someone approaching the branch, shaking it and stopping because the person on the branch has fought back. In fighting back you might actually fall off the branch.

That is NOT being unfuckwithable.

Quite the contrary. If that’s you, then you will not be enjoying the view from your branch. You’ll be sitting there like a centurion on look-out trying to look very scary to anyone who even thinks about shaking your branch. That’s because you don’t have the inner balance to withstand any shaking of the branch, so you use fear to stop people from trying.

Being unfuckwithable is the inner knowing that people and situations can test you and shit on your parade, but that it won’t affect you.

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Being Unfuckwithable Means Staying in Your Power

At its core, being unfuckwithable is about knowing that:

  • Situations and people can test you, but they won’t throw you off course.
  • You can remain grounded, no matter the chaos around you.
  • Your self-worth isn’t determined by others—it’s rooted within.

If you’re wondering just how unfuckwithable you are, take the Ladder Quiz to find out. This simple yet powerful tool will reveal where you’re solid—and where you might need to strengthen your inner balance.

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Take the quiz now and discover how high you’re climbing on the ladder to being truly unfuckwithable!

So, do you think you’re unfuckwithable? If not yet, don’t worry—you’re just a few healing steps away.

  • You will still be in your power.
  • You won’t crumble.
  • You won’t lose your shit.
  • You won’t throw a hail of bullets their way.
  • You’ll just carry on with your day.

Being unfuckwithable is about being able to stay in your power, no matter what.

For me that is true unfuckability.

Do you think you’re unfuckwithable?

Let me know in the comments.

 

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