Stop getting in your own way
Self-sabotage is when we prevent ourselves from reaching our goals. Most of the time we do this subconsciously. This is what makes it so frustrating. We know we’re doing it, but we’re not quite sure how. We just know that we are because we keep missing our goals.
Self-sabotaging behaviour can affect nearly every aspect of our lives, whether it’s our relationships, around our work, career or business, or around personal goal such as weight loss or quitting smoking.
Self-sabotaging behaviour can take a few forms but mostly fall into these camps;
Blocks. This is where we simply stop ourselves from moving forward and it’s usually down to an underlying fear. This can lead to procrastination and inaction, which ultimately means we don’t get nearer to our goals.
Conflict. This is where we zig-zag or we flip-flop between two different sometimes opposing actions. Conflicts usually makes us feel like we’re running around in circles or that we flit between going all in with something, and then pulling back off it. The result being that we don’t move forward. It’s like being in the car and using your accelerator and brakes at the same time.
Thankfully, self-sabotaging can be dealt with and it doesn’t have to take long.
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