Why You’re So Bloody Tired All the Time

Let’s talk about why you’re exhausted. Properly exhausted. Not just “need a nap” tired  – I mean can’t think straight, can’t get out of bed, can’t sleep even though I’m shattered kind of tired.

You’re not lazy or flawed. And more rest won’t fix this.

The real reason? Your nervous system and your mind are completely overwhelmed.

Part 1: Your Nervous System is On Fire

Every time you feel an emotion – fear, doubt, guilt, sadness, anxiety – your nervous system gets activated.

That might be when:

  • Someone says something that triggers a memory.
  • You scroll past something that sets off a fear.
  • A worry or “what if?” pops into your head.
  • You anticipate a confrontation, decision, or potential failure.

Each one of these zaps your nervous system. It’s not always dramatic – sometimes it’s a micro-trigger. But your body doesn’t care. It responds as if there’s danger.

And if you’re prone to rumination (hello, anxiety), then you’re not just being triggered once – you’re re-triggering yourself every time you loop that thought.

That means your system is constantly firing, without ever getting the chance to reset. And that takes a HUGE amount of energy.

Part 2: Your Mind is Working Overtime

While your nervous system is being set off like a car alarm at a fireworks display, your mind is trying to manage everything.

Before you say anything, do anything, decide anything, you’re cross-checking against your personal fear database:

  • Will this make me feel rejected?
  • What if I fail?
  • Is this going to trigger guilt?
  • Am I allowed to want this?

Every single action is being mentally scanned for emotional landmines.

So your brain isn’t just thinking. It’s firefighting.

Every decision. Every social interaction. Every task. Every moment.

And then, when you finally do something, your nervous system flares up again – because now you’ve taken a risk, stepped into the unknown, or brushed against an old fear.

This is emotional burnout, and it’s a silent epidemic.

Why Sleep Isn’t Helping

We assume we just need more rest – but this kind of exhaustion runs deeper. Your body is in survival mode, and ironically, you need energy to sleep well.

When you’re constantly triggered, you’re burning through your energy reserves during the day. Then when night comes, you don’t have enough fuel left to properly fall or stay asleep.

So your nervous system stays wired. And round and round you go…

“Nervous System Regulation” Isn’t the Goal – It’s the Side Effect

There’s a lot of talk these days about regulating your nervous system.

Breathwork. Meditation. Long walks. Cold plunges.

They can all help – but they don’t deal with the root cause: What’s triggering you in the first place.

If you’re constantly trying to soothe your system, you’re always one step behind.

Imagine driving a car with your foot to the floor, revving the engine hard – and then trying to calm things down by playing soft music and opening the windows. It’s still going to be loud, tense, and draining.

Wouldn’t it be better to just take your foot off the gas?

Here’s Where Head Trash Clearance Comes In

The way I work is simple.

We go through the thoughts, fears, doubts, anxieties and emotional conflicts that are quietly sabotaging your system… and we delete them one by one.

Imagine you’re juggling 40 balls in the air.

No wonder you can’t move forward.
No wonder you’re dropping things.
No wonder you’re exhausted.

We take the balls away – not all at once, but steadily, one by one.

Eventually, you’re juggling just a few.
You’ve got capacity again.
You’ve got energy.
You’ve got space.

And when your mind isn’t constantly scanning for threats…
And your nervous system isn’t flaring up like a faulty alarm…
That’s when you feel calm.
That’s when your system is truly regulated.

And that’s not something you have to “maintain” forever. It just is.

Ready to finally get some sleep?

If this feels familiar – if you’re living in that exhausted place – then chances are, anxiety is also part of your picture.

My book, Clear Your Anxiety. For Good, lays out the emotional roots behind anxiety and how to heal them. And when you’re ready to dive deeper, my Anxiety Healing System will walk you through exactly how to do it.

Start with the book or jump into the full program – a good night’s sleep starts here.

Because you’re not meant to feel this tired all the time.

Alexia Leachman
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