What If The Root Of Your Anxiety Isn’t What You Think?

If you’re someone who’s been on a personal development or healing journey — or just someone trying to cope — chances are, you’ve crossed paths with anxiety.

Maybe it’s a constant low-level hum in the background.
Maybe it spikes in certain situations and leaves you breathless.
Maybe it’s always been there — something you’ve “just managed.”

But what if the anxiety you’ve been carrying…
Wasn’t yours to carry in the first place?

Introducing Reproductive Anxiety Disorder (RAD)

I want to introduce you to something I’ve come to call Reproductive Anxiety Disorder (RAD). This isn’t a medical diagnosis (yet).

But it’s a pattern I’ve seen in hundreds of women — and once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

RAD is the hidden anxiety that affects women at every major reproductive milestone:

  • Puberty

  • Sexual development

  • Family planning

  • Fertility struggles

  • Pregnancy or fear of it

  • Birth (your own or others’)

  • Motherhood

  • Menopause

And even if you’ve never wanted children — that doesn’t make you immune.
In fact, avoidance of these topics is often a key sign.

RAD is like the mother of all anxiety.

Not because it’s worse.
But because it quietly gives birth to so many of the struggles women bring into the Head Trash space.

Fear of losing control.
Fear of being seen.
Fear of failing.
Fear of your body changing.
Fear of being responsible for others.
Fear of being “too much” — or not enough.

These aren’t random fears.
They’re reproductive-coded fears — deeply wired into how women are socialised, medicalised, and conditioned from the earliest age.

So what does RAD look like?

The thing about RAD is that it doesn’t walk in the front door with a name tag.
It shows up wearing lots of disguises:

💭 Overwhelm and burnout you can’t shake
💭 Relationship anxiety you can’t explain
💭 Perfectionism, people-pleasing, or avoidance
💭 Shame around intimacy or sex
💭 Feeling “off” around pregnant women or baby talk
💭 Panic after seeing a positive pregnancy test
💭 Menopause symptoms that feel like mental collapse
💭 Not being able to talk about family planning without tears or shutdown

And maybe the most telling one:

💭 You’ve done loads of work on your mindset and trauma — but your anxiety still lingers.

If any of these sound familiar… you may be dealing with reproductive anxiety.

So why haven’t we talked about this before?

Because anxiety in women has been consistently misunderstood and misdiagnosed.

We get told:

  • “It’s just hormones.”

  • “It’s probably your cycle.”

  • “It’s normal for women to be anxious.”

  • “You’re just emotional.”

The research backs this up: Women are twice as likely to experience anxiety disorders as men (McLean et al., 2017) — and have been, consistently, for decades.

And yet no one’s asked why.

We’ve blamed our biology instead of exploring our emotional landscape.

This isn’t just a theory. It’s personal.

I used to be buried in anxiety.

Mine exploded when I saw a positive pregnancy test.
What happened in that moment was like an emotional landslide — it wasn’t just fear, it was grief, panic, dread, and total emotional collapse.

I now call that moment “The Split” — when the fear overwhelms the system and you can’t find yourself anymore.

That was the day I realised I wasn’t “just anxious.”
I was carrying a form of anxiety that no one had prepared me for.
That no one had ever named.

And so, I decided to do the work.
I created a method to help myself heal — and it worked.

Fast forward ten years, and I now train professionals to help women clear the exact kind of fear I once thought I’d never escape.

What makes RAD different from “normal” anxiety?

👉 It’s patterned.
👉 It’s lifecycle-triggered.
👉 It’s often wrapped in shame, silence, or secrecy.
👉 It doesn’t respond to surface-level mindset work.
👉 And it doesn’t always show up as “pregnancy fear.”

RAD can live quietly under the radar for years — only to erupt during:

  • A midlife crisis

  • A health scare

  • A fertility challenge

  • A pregnancy scare

  • A traumatic pap smear

  • A child’s birth

  • Or even menopause

That’s what makes it so hard to spot — and so important to name.

So what do we do with this?

First: we give it a name.
Because naming things creates clarity, and clarity opens the door to healing.

Second: we stop trying to manage anxiety we’re meant to clear.

With Head Trash Clearance, I’ve been able to help women resolve lifelong patterns of fear in weeks — not years. When we go to the root and treat anxiety like emotional debris, we stop managing symptoms… and start releasing them.

Third: we share the insight.

Because RAD might be invisible, but it’s not rare.
You probably know someone living with it — or maybe you’re living with it yourself.

Either way, it’s time to stop pretending that we’re “fine.”

Final thought…

If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety didn’t make sense,
Or that therapy helped a bit but not enough,
Or that healing works for “other people” but not you…

You’re not broken.
You’re likely just carrying something deeper.
Something older.
Something that’s yours to clear — not to carry.

And now you have a name for it.

Reproductive Anxiety Disorder.

Let’s clear it.
You in?

💛
Alexia

Ready to start clearing your RAD?

If any of this resonated — you don’t have to keep carrying it alone.
This isn’t about coping better. It’s about healing fully.

I’ve created tools to help you do that:

The Personalised Healing Plan

A custom roadmap to help you identify and clear the hidden fears, wounds, and beliefs driving your anxiety. If you’re not sure where to start, this is your next step.

→ Learn more about the Personalised Healing Plan

The Childhood Wounds Healing Collection

Reproductive anxiety is often rooted in early emotional wounding — like betrayal, rejection, abandonment, guilt, or scarcity.
This product includes over two years’ worth of healing activations and guided clearances to help you release what’s been stored for decades.

→ Explore the Wounds Healing Collection

You don’t need to “manage” your anxiety anymore.
You can clear it.
Let’s begin.

Alexia Leachman
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